Are you taking care of you?

Hi there!

I’m feeling compelled to talk about self love and care today! I’ve personally been struggling with this for a long time but I have gotten to the point in my journey of self care where I’m recognizing the things I do already or new ways to continue to show myself self love to help heal me and help me be the mom I strive to be. I even just recently went to the doctor for a couple of bumps on my body and I had no idea what they were for awhile, one had even been there for at least a year, if not more. It showed up in the time I was pregnant and had two babies in two years which took a lot out of me mentally & physically so, I just kept putting it off.

Well I finally went in last week and my doctor told me one bump is sebaceous cyst that I can have cut out (yay!) at my earliest convenience. I may have minor scarring but yes, please take away the random red bump in the middle of my back. Well the other bump my doctor thinks is a Dermatofibroma which can be cut out as well but it was bigger so we did liquid nitrogen cryotherapy to see if it’d do anything and so far it seems like it has shrunk it smaller! Both are benign which was refreshing but, no answers as to why they occur. Which is almost more irritating personally for me, I like answers and why’s but with this situation I’ll just have to remind myself that not everything can be explained!

What I’m achieving to say to my readers here is that I had been putting off taking care of myself for so long because I felt like I never had time. But what I didn’t think to do was prioritize it to be important and make time for me, I wasn’t taking care of myself and I was causing myself more stress everyday because of it. Doing things for you to show yourself self love is so essential everyday, especially so you are not getting burnt out on this crazy thing called life. Which I’ve realized as I’ve gotten older is so easy to do! Am i right?

It doesn’t even have to be something crazy or that takes a long time. I work from home and I light a candle while I work which helps calm me and makes me more comfortable in my space. Or I read a motivational excerpt every morning after I wake up to start my day off right. I read a book I love or write in my blog to show myself some self love also! It can be very easy to do even if your options are limited, it is just a matter of the effort and thought you put into it! I even see shaving my legs as a form of self love solely because it makes me feel good. ❤️ Doing the simple things that make you feel good and daring to find those quirks of yours will help you flourish as a person and allow you to be whomever you are meant to be!

If your having trouble figuring out what makes you feel good, here is a list of examples that i have compiled for you:

Some of the things i name are maybe basic necessities but it doesn’t mean they don’t make you feel good which still counts in my opnion!

  • Shower
  • Cut your nails/Paint your nails/Get your nails done
  • Take a bath with a bath bomb or Epsom salt!
  • Light a candle or two 😉
  • Read a book
  • Write or start a gratitude journal
  • Get crafty (scrapbook, make something off Pinterest)
  • Photography
  • Shopping
  • Meditate
  • Listen to music
  • Put on your favorite outfit & go out
  • Dancing(a class or just simply dancing at home)
  • Exercise(at home or join a gym)
  • Swim
  • Go on a picnic,
  • Go to the park
  • Yoga
  • Enjoy some fresh air by opening a window or sitting outside drinking your favorite drink!
  • Cook or Bake
  • Face Mask
  • Try something on your bucket list or simply get out of your comfort zone!

And the list goes on, this is only a small portion of ideas i encourage you to try to look inside of yourself to determine what makes you happy! Whatever you decide to do I hope it helps you achieve all your goals and helps you feel better about your life because you are kickass! What you do for yourself & how full you fill up your cup will reflect back onto the people around you and you will be changing the world without even realizing it! It is never too late to adopt new practices and habits, you just have to be open to receive!

Until next time,

Alexis 🙂

Published by SD Exotic Dancer!👯‍♀️🖤

Stripping is my main squeeze, but I do dabble in other stuff ;) I am Pansexual in a polyamorous marriage with my transgender wife. We have 3 children and were born and raised in South Dakota. This is my story & life adventures! <3

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