“That is just how it is”


Today’s post really hits home for me. As you know i am pansexual and my partner is transgender. Since i’ve actually started to allow myself to be a part of the LGBTQIA community it has really opened up my eyes and changed me on a soul level as a person. I’ve been able to recognize when others haven’t been through something similar so they put the label on it as that’s just how people are or that is just how the world works. I mean Is it just me and my partner or are you hearing this all the time too? Which makes you take a step back like, while if that is just how the world works or how people are then how will our world ever change and grow?

Exactly, it won’t. If we give all of these justifications for people and don’t call them out on their shit then they will go through life on auto pilot never allowing change into their being. I’m just mortified at the way people treat others and the way we as a society shove it under the rug just so we don’t have to deal with it or so we don’t have to feel the shitty parts in life. Now I do recognize that there are millions of people everyday going through a thousand different things but the one thing I think we could all agree on is that you should be treating others with the kindness you wish to receive. To give each other respect and understanding all the time because you never know when you will be the one coming to a rock and a hard place. I believe we as humans are never meant to stay the same people forever, that we are meant to grow and make small etched changes into the way the world works and continues to grow for our future generations.

If we aren’t trying to make that change, loving people for who they truly are or just being open and kind to others then what the hell are we doing?? I don’t know about you but, I can’t live my life knowing I did absolutely nothing to impact others, that I never worked on myself, never put myself out there and made myself vulnerable in hopes that it will be a small step to change in the world, yourself and others. This has been going on for longer then i have been alive(of course!) but, I feel such a need to speak out about it and shed light on it. No one wants to be alone and we all want to surround ourselves with real people who love us but tearing down others just to get there sounds backwards to me. You aren’t going to keep anyone in your life that you constantly tear down or show no love to. So how do a lot of people think this is okay today, in god damn 2021?! How can someone expect to be loved but never have to be vulnerable or spread love to others?

It’s constant gossip about everyone else’s lives after gossip, I find no interest in those conversations they take a lot from me by just being there. I’ve lived my entire life just living it, taking the hits, the bad times, the good times but, I don’t think I’ve ever made someone feel so horrible about themselves as a person just so I could feel better. Sometimes i just wonder, what the hell are we doing?? Even if you have done this before, you can do better and be better; those mistakes and situations you regret don’t have to define who you are for the rest of your life. Everyone is capable of change you just have to be willing to continue through with it even when it gets hard and uncomfortable for you to do. When we get out of our comfort zone and get awkward that is when monumental, beautiful growth happens. I HAVE to believe we are better then this, we are better then the worst parts and the worst people of our society. Everyone has their own walk of life which is the way it is meant to be but to judge others who are on a journey to become their truest selves and to have no actual knowledge or feelings as to how these individuals feel.. Yet still feeling the need to bring them down because of your own circumstances in life is truly mind boggling.

You aren’t allowing your being out of your own personal prison you built for yourself in your mind, we are meant to change. WE ARE MEANT TO ACCEPT AND LOVE ALL HUMAN BEINGS AND WALKS OF LIFE. Be the change! You can’t stay inside your personal prison forever, eventually you will have enough and when that time comes wouldn’t you want to have a loving community by your side rather then a community that treats you like dirt for simply being your true self? What can we do to get more involved? What can we do to shape the people around us? I ask myself these questions every single day, if we don’t question our habits, our way of thinking etc. we aren’t really living at all! We are meant to grow to become the people we are destined to be, to right the wrongs of our ancestors, and to help the world grow and heal itself.

Some will say there’s too much damage to let go but letting go doesn’t mean you have to forgive, you can move one without forgiving too. Do what you need to do to allow yourself to heal, others around you will start to heal just being near you and generations of suffering will be able to heal too. Every single soul on earth has a purpose, why can’t we let each other fulfill that purpose by spreading love and kindness to help people reach that potential?? Does any one have another opinion or any thoughts as to how to stand together everyday to help one another? I’d love to hear some insight, I am always looking for more knowledge & understanding to the way other individuals think & what they’ve been through! There is no judgement here! ❤

I hope you’ve been initiated to look deeper, to start to realize how much potential you have inside yourself to offer . Even if it isn’t in this present moment it will stick with you in the back of your mind, you will flourish with all of your hard work and selflessness one day. Keep pushing, keep fighting for what you believe in, don’t give up & keep on keeping on!! I believe in a better tomorrow, Do you?

Published by SD Exotic Dancer!👯‍♀️🖤

Stripping is my main squeeze, but I do dabble in other stuff ;) I am Pansexual in a polyamorous marriage with my transgender wife. We have 3 children and were born and raised in South Dakota. This is my story & life adventures! <3

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